Psychology of Situations

Yesterday I went to my cousin sister’s house, last week she had lost her 35 years

old son. When I met her and her daughter-in-law, I was shocked by the way they

both stood strong against their loss. In fact, her daughter-in-law even started her

job within 8 days of the incident, with full support from the family.

In day to day life, we face so many negative, sad and painful situations and these

small things or incidences hurt us a lot. In fact, sometimes people even start

falling in depression.

When we suffer severe sad situations, the moment we accept it, our behavior

and thoughts start changing positively.

Situation handling in day to day life is an art and if we learn or understand this art,

our lives become very happy and peaceful.

Acceptance is the first key to situation handling.

One of my client’s mother-in-law was creating many issues for her and my

client and day-after-day their relation was spoiling. The situation escalated

to the point where her mother-in-law was planning to commit suicide, she

even wrote a suicide letter blaming my client for everything. This incident

provoked my client to move to a separate house. When she came to me I

heard her whole case and then suggested her that since you are her only

daughter-in-law her behavioral issues are always going to be there

whether you stay with her or not, so the sooner you accept that she has

some behavioral issues the better.

Focus on the solution, not on the problem.

Now you have accepted the problem, what next? If every time we keep on

talking about the problem then we are making the situation even worst.

We have to take responsibility for our behavior, our actions and our

mistakes and automatically half of the problems will be solved. When we

focus on the solution, we are the master of solving our problem, nobody

can solve your problem better than you.

Analyse

Take baby steps and keep moving ahead. Analyse yourself, try self-talking,

what I think and do is it right or do I need to change anything? Analyse

every day and try to do better the next day. When we analyse ourselves

indirectly we motivate ourselves and we maintain our consistency too.

When we use all these steps, handling any situation not only in relationship

issues but also in day to day life, any critical or small simple situation can be

solved smoothly. This also helps us reduce our stress levels. Sometimes, we

don’t have an option but to fight against the situation that time just accept

it and let it go. Don’t worry if you had planned your work schedule and

suddenly your car’s tyre goes flat. We thinking of an alternative and also

complain, ‘mere saath hi aisa hota hai, kitna bhi plan karlo‘ , we

unknowingly start to put blockages in our mind and it reflects in other

situations, instead we try letting it go ‘think hai kabhi kabhi ho jaata hai

next time car pahele he check kar lenge’. It is these small things that keep

on piling up and create negativity if initially not taken care off.

When we follow these small steps in the day to day routine we can handle

problems smoothly be it any sudden situation.

Be the designer of your world.