Apex Mind n Mine Counselling Polyclinic Blog

Yesterday I went to my cousin sister’s house, last week she had lost her 35 years old son. When I met her and her daughter-in-law, I was shocked by the way they both stood strong against their loss. In fact, her daughter-in-law even started her job within 8 days of the incident, with full support from the family. In day to day life, we face so many negative, sad and painful situations and these small things or incidences hurt us a lot. In fact, sometimes people even start falling in depression. When we suffer severe sad situations, the moment we accept it, our behavior and thoughts start changing positively. Situation handling in day to day life is an art and if we learn or understand this art, our lives become very happy and peaceful. Acceptance is the first key to situation handling. One of my client’s mother-in-law was creating many issues for her and my client and day-after-day their relation was spoiling. The situation escalated to the point whe...

Yesterday I was sitting with few likeminded people and one of them said people hesitate to change even if they are not happy in the present situation. To prove his statement he narrated an incident. He told us that he happened to meet a group of prostitutes at a rehabilitation centre . These ladies said that they were not leading a normal life and were worried about their old age. The in-charge of the rehabilitation centre asked them to stay at the centre and work for the needy there. He explained that this would enable them to live a more respectable life and they could save for their old age as well. But they were reluctant to leave the place where they were staying and also their profession and come to the mainstream . Now, it’s not that they are enjoying being a prostitute. At some point of time in the initial years, they too might have thought and tried to get out of the situation. But now, they are used to their way of life. They do not want to come out of their comfort zone...

Seema, 27 years, was in love with Shekhar for last 5-6 years. Their family’s financial status, educational qualification, social status, job profiles were all comparable. But still, their parents were against their marriage as they belonged to different communities. Seema and Shekhar were very firm on their decision that if at all they had to marry they would marry each other only otherwise they would not marry at all. After 6 months of discussions between both the families, ultimately their parents agreed for their marriage and they got married. 6 months later Seema came to her parent’s home and said she did not want to go to Shekhar’s house again. What went wrong between them in such a short period? Before marriage, they were sure to lead a very happy married life as they had a lot of things common between them and they had talked about them a number of times. They were confident that they knew each other very well and had a very strong love bond between them. And now Seema was c...

It would not be improper if we name today's age as the age of stress and strain. Every individual right from a KG child to his retired grandparents, from a maidservant to the housewife and from an individual standing at the bottom of the hierarchical level to the top boss of the organization-nobody is immune to stress. It may be physiological, sociological, psychological or occupational stress. If we analyse the problems faced by the heterogeneous group of individuals, stress is sure to be found a root cause in the majority of the cases. One is usually unaware that ailments like ulcers, headaches, backache , indigestion, increased blood pressure and fatigue are due to emotional stress. At one time it was thought that such disorders were medical problems physical in origin and that there were little psychologists could do about them. Now, however, these are seen as psychological problems arising from the physical, social and psychological conditions of work. We fre...